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Quick Quote | Tullian Tchividjian: On One Way Love

“Love must be one-way to be worth anything.”
– Pastor Tullian Tchividjian

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I realize that statement may shock the system.

In a what-have-you-done-for-me-lately world, where, too often, we keep meticulous score and only mete out love as we feel it’s deserved, that’s almost hard for the brain to process on first read.

So, go ahead, read it again.

Love must be one-way to be worth anything.

It certainly turns conventional wisdom and pop psychology on their heads, but it’s the truth.

Remember, Jesus said it’s easy to love the people who are nice to us, the people who treat us well. “What credit is that?” is actually how He put it.

Relationships are healthiest when each person is practicing a radical, unconditional love that goes beyond reciprocation or obligation.

Think of the way most of parents love their newborn babies. That radical, unconditional, overwhelming love despite the fact that they can’t do anything for us. We stay up late, wake up in the middle of the night, get up early, feed, clothe, hold, bathe, play with, provide for, clean up after and totally rearrange our lives for them. THAT is the one-way love we must capture and live out in our relationships.

Here’s another great thought on this from @pastortullian:

More from Tullian’s book One Way Love, as published in an earlier post entitled 3 Minute Marriage Counselor: Got Grace? (by Matthew Reid):

We are the recipients of abounding, incomprehensible and undeserved grace, yet we tend to treat others more like the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:21-35) than the man who told that story.

“The world tells us to stand up for ourselves, to stick to our guns. But the Gospel frees us to lay down our arms.” (via Pastor Tullian Tchividjian)

Pastor Tullian makes the case for cultivating more grace in our relationships in his new book, One Way Love. While God’s way often seems more difficult, in the end it not only brings Him glory, it’s what’s best for us, too!

A few quotes jumped out at me from this book…

“The fire to love unconditionally comes only from being soaked in the fuel of being unconditionally loved.” ~Pastor Tullian

When we live for our happiness, as opposed to God’s glory and the good of those around us, we miss out on a whole lot of awesome. Putting ourselves first may be natural, but even putting aside obedience and choosing the narrow path, it just doesn’t work.

“Every marriage is the union of two selfish people, fighting for their way, desperate to win. That’s why an apology so often feels like we are betraying ourselves. We would rather see a marriage fall apart than cede any ground…” ~Pastor Tullian

We’re so stubborn. We’ll act in a way that’s counter productive to our own best interests just to “win.” That victory, however, is no such thing. We don’t get what we really wanted in the first place, we hurt the people we love and we miss an opportunity to give God glory.

That’s lose, lose, lose.

It’s pride.

We need to remember that the people who hurt us are not the real enemy. (Ephesians 6:12, 1 Peter 5:8)

“Husbands and wives are often so hard on one another, merciless with their demands and expectations, their criticisms and silences.” ~Pastor Tullian

We’re in a battle. A battle for our marriage, our family, our kids. We’re fighting for our futures, a war for the souls of family members, friends, neighbors and coworkers who are far from God and are watching us.

We can point those around us, including our own children, toward God and show them a better way. We don’t have to do what everybody else does, we can be more.

As my pastor, Sean Sears, often says, we won’t have extraordinary lives if we keep making ordinary choices.

But 1 Corinthians 13 points toward the hope that’s there for us: “Love believes, hopes, endures, never ends…”

“For the marriage grounded in one-way love, there is always hope, always a way forward.” ~Pastor Tullian

Read the more quotes from Pastor Tullian’s new book One Way Love.

[Originally published November 3, 2013 growingingracetoday.wordpress.com]

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Quick Quote | Matt Chandler: On Suffering

This is so good. We need to remember that God has already given us the heads up on this. Our suffering isn’t random, it’s not pointless, it’s a gift. No, seriously.

“…We also REJOICE in our sufferings, because we KNOW that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, CHARACTER; and character, HOPE. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his LOVE into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has GIVEN US.” – Romans 5:3-5

Suffering is never fun, but let’s be encouraged knowing that God is at work in the mess! More: Matt Chandler Catalyst H/T: Ann Voskamp | @amnvoskamp


Quick Quote | Tullian Tchividjian: On God’s Acceptance

Wanted to share a great quote from Tullian Tchividjian:

“God’s acceptance of us cannot be gained by our successes nor forfeited by our failures.”

God loves us. Period.

We can’t earn it.

Our failures don’t finish us.

The enemy whispers lies in our ear, telling us that that we’re not good enough or that God can’t use us because of our past.

But here’s the thing, God often uses us more BECAUSE of our failures.

He specializes in taking the broken and making it beautiful. He heals the unfixable. He breathes life into dry bones, turns hearts of stone into hearts of flesh, makes what’s dead come to life.

The truth is we’re NOT good enough.

But we don’t have to be.

If we’re truly following Jesus, God sees us not for what we’ve done, but what He did on our behalf.

God’s response to our genuine repentance? He’s chosen to not only forgive, but to totally forget.

When we turned from sin, He took our mistakes and failures and instead of filing them away somewhere to use against us down the road, He sent them to a place so far away we can’t even measure or describe.

He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.
– Psalm 103:12

Let’s accept God’s acceptance.

That’s when we’ll be free to be all that God already sees in us and to live out the future He has planned for us!

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Quick Quote | Hart Ramsey: On God’s Protection

“When you go through deep waters,
I will be with you.
When you go through rivers of difficulty,
you will not drown.
When you walk through the fire of oppression,
you will not be burned up;
the flames will not consume you.”
-Isaiah 43:2


Quick Quote | Chuck Pagano: On Overcoming

Working on a piece on seeing past our circumstances, which I’ll publish later this week.

Here’s a great quote to serve as a preview and get your wheels turning…


Quick Quote | Henry Ford: On Obstacles

“Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off of the goal.”
– Henry Ford

A goal worth pursuing is, by definition, not going to be without some challenges.

If you’re climbing a mountain, it maybe the rocks or felled trees in your path, the thin air, the fatigue or steep inclines that try to steal your attention or shake your resolve. Don’t lose sight of the view from the top that’s waiting past the pain..

If it’s a restored relationship you’re fighting for, it may be the disappointments, the let downs, the hurt, the frustration, the waiting or the pain in the eyes of people you love who are also hurting. Don’t give up. Remember the promises of Luke 15, and how God never gave up on you, no matter what.

If it’s a health issue, remember, the road back is sometimes long and difficult, but recovery is worth it.

Whatever challenges you’re working through, remember that anything worth attaining takes effort, and that the hard work is worth it. Each road bump, thunder bolt and obstacle you get past brings you one step closer to your fulfilling your mission.

In some cases, you may not even be aware of the goal, or where it’s all leading. You may be facing a series of difficult circumstances that seem completely random and pointless.

But consider King David. As a young shepherd boy, he fought off a lion and a bear. I’m guessing that rescuing a sheep from the jaws of a lion or bear was never the driving purpose in his life, but it’s how he made it through those challenges that determined the extent to which God would use him.

For many, one such feat would be the crowning achievement of their lives. Today, they’d write a book, sell the movie rights, do a TedTalk and hit the speaking circuit.

But God had so much more in store for David.

Only the confidence gained and lessons learned in those situations could provide David with the real world courage to fight Goliath, while seasoned soldiers shook in their armor on the sidelines.

Our scariest days, and the giants we’re facing right now, are preparation for what God is ultimately working toward in and through us.

So even if you don’t know exactly where he’s taking you, trust that He’s got a plan and that, in the end, it will all make sense.

And, never take your eye off of the prize!