Quick Question: Why Don’t You Just Give Up?

I often hear people ask why someone hasn’t given up in a particular situation, why they don’t just move on, or get over it.

Dr. Richard Stillman summed up my feelings on this perfectly, when he said:

“There’s no point in not fighting. Surrendering leads immediately to defeat, it’s futile. The only thing to do is do our best. So I don’t care whether it looks hopeful or hopeless – I’m going to fight anyway.”
– Dr. Richard Stallman

To be sure, there are things that are worth giving up. Hurts, grudges, bitterness. Bad habits, unhealthy thoughts, anger. All good things to get over.

But we’ve become way too quick to give up on people. And things worthwhile.

Too often, for many of us:

– We take the path of least resistance and end up places we never wanted to be.
– We spend more than ever, but buy nothing of lasting value.
– Our immediate, personal happiness trumps everything, yet we’re chronically sad.
– We believe the lies we want to and ignore the Voice of Truth
– The slightest adversity or difficulty knocks us off mission.
– We document every moment, but miss them all.
– We give up the meaningful, in pursuit of a mirage.
– We’ll sell our soul to gain, not even the whole world, just a tiny piece of it.
– We’ll throw away the cherished, for gold plated garbage.

We need to adjust our mindsets. We need to turn all of that thinking inside out and right side up.

Let’s fight. Not WITH each other, but FOR each other.

Warren Barfield wrote a song for his wife, six years into their marriage. At a time when they had huge problems and were both 100% convinced it was over, both fully planning on walking away, he penned the following words:

“Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It’s a house we enter in
Then commit to never leave

So lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We’ll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
And if we try to leave, may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it’s something worth fighting for…”

Warren and his wife chose to fight. They didn’t give up. They tore down their house on the sand and rebuilt it, together, on steady ground. Seven years later, their love remains.

I want to repeat Dr. Stallman’s words, because they are manna to the soul of a hurting, weary heart, that wants to give up:

“There’s no point in not fighting. Surrendering leads immediately to defeat, it’s futile. The only thing to do is do our best. So I don’t care whether it looks hopeful or hopeless – I’m going to fight anyway.”
– Dr. Richard Stallman

Choose to fight. They’re worth it. And so are you…

Don’t. Give. Up.

#PressOn

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
– Galatians 6:9

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